Summer Interns

Like many families during the summertime months, life is full of adventures, long days and later bedtimes.

With Love had it’s share of adventures and long days this summer. With the transition and relocation to their new facility, much of the summer months were spent packing, unpacking and organizing.

Added to this mix, With Love welcomed three interns and an intern coordinator. These four new additions stepped right into this busy energy, eager to gain experience and education in this non-profit world.

Taking their summer break from college, they desired to pour their time into learning about and assisting With Love.

To help direct this process and experience, Shanna Swatrz was hired as the summer intern coordinator. Shanna loved being able to guide these young ladies as they worked, learned and laughed together.






School has been in session for 3 weeks now; and these past three weeks I’ve just been exhaling.

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People have huge hearts and make big sacrifices to be foster families and they are under appreciated.
— Shanna Swatrz, summer intern supervisor
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Shanna remembers the day she said “yes” to this opportunity. “I honestly wasn’t sure what to expect when I said yes to Allie. I just never expected to be around such strong, confident and hard working young women who did anything they were asked.” Shanna says she was impressed by how flexible and hard working the girls were and how much they accomplished together. 

We had three young women from different backgrounds and they all worked well together and genuinely are friends now.”

Working together with a common vision and passion creates fast friendship and camaraderie.

“There were so many learning opportunities, times to forgive and figure out how to work together. It was truly a life changing, growing experience.” 

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Some of the most memorable times for Shanna was watching the interns interact with the foster families and children. 

“My thoughts have drastically changed because you can’t judge people by where they live or socio economic status or ANYTHING!  … People have huge hearts and make big sacrifices to be foster families and they are under appreciated.”

As Shanna makes a big move to Florida this fall, she still plans on being involved at With Love whenever she visits Oregon. She truly has a big heart for these families and a true desire to serve and love.

Thank you, Shanna! Your leadership, hard work, and love for our staff is so appreciated. We needed you for this season. We are better because you said ‘yes.’

Intern Bri Brown is an organizational community major at George Fox University. She applied to intern at With Love because she herself grew up in the foster care system, and she has a heart and compassion for children in foster care and their families.  

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“Dignity is a huge factor. Ever since I was in foster care I’ve referred to myself as a foster kid. But the wording at With Love is “a child in foster care” because they aren’t defined by their living situation.”

Bri loved working personally with the families. Time and time again she was impressed by the sacrifice and love families showed. “Once I did a pull for three brothers, ages 6,5,&4. … this family kept three brothers together and boys at that age are difficult and need extra shoes and clothes since they wear through them so fast. I made sure all the boys had blankets and toys that were specific to their likes and packed the oldest boy’s backpack for kindergarten.”

Another time Bri helped a man who had a month old baby with Downs Syndrom. “Foster care is messy and families that say yes to children with special needs have extra doctors appointments and a new learning curve. I love that the community we work with are so dedicated to the kids. It doesn’t matter how messy. I’m just in awe of how great these families are.”


Being on the other side of foster care now, Bri was able to see first hand the love, and she was thrilled to be apart of it. 

“I’ve always wanted to work with foster families and kids in foster care because of my own experience.”

Thank you Bri! Your hard work and creative spirit made a huge difference. Your art and carts will live on.

Paige Elkins took a summer break from Oregon State and her sociology degree to learn more about foster care and how a non profit operates. 

Paige said she wasn’t very familiar with foster care, but was amazed by the love she witnessed while volunteering.

“I thought I knew what the environment of a non-profit was like, but I think I was surprised by how involved the volunteers were.”

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Paige began her internship during With Love’s move to a new facility. Not only she gain insight into the operations, but she also gained valuable “life skills” as well. 

The volunteers at With Love are amazing and do so much to support foster families and kids in foster care.
— Paige Elkins, summer intern

“The move provided space for a lot of hard work and new ideas. I am someone who thrives with structure and clear expectations, but I know that the world often doesn't work like that. With Love challenged me to be flexible, while also encouraging me to be confident and use my voice to ask good questions.”

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As Paige transitions back to school to continue her education, she feels her summer at With Love broadened her perspective in so many ways.

“I am leaving With Love with a much better understanding of all that children in foster care go through and how much foster parents do to support these kids. I think I have a lot more respect for foster parents who take these children, often with little notice, and the sacrifices they make for them. I also understand the need that With Love fills to give children in foster care dignity and intentionality in such tangible ways.”

You are amazing Paige! Your poise, focus, and hard work got so many tasks accomplished.


Tamara Cluff, a  junior sociology major at Oregon State, interned at With Love because she was immediately drawn to the ‘compassionate and empowering nature’.

She has lots of experience working with families and volunteering for organizations in anticipation for a social work career. “With Love really appealed to me because of the impact and resources it provided for a group of under represented people.”

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“I had no idea what to expect when I started this internship, but I was happily surprised with the empowering and uplifting environment that is fostered by all the super dedicated women who contribute endless support and hard work.”


Moving a whole warehouse to figuring out how to unfold a table, Tamara says her collaboration with the other interns, volunteers and employees at With Love was a wonderful, life changing experience. 


“I realized that families closest to the displaced child have to make huge sacrifices to help a child they were quickly placed with. I also learned about the supportive community and love given unconditionally. I was immediately humbled and overwhelmed with the way families worked so hard to get their kids the resources they needed.”

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Tamara says her internship gave her a glimpse into the non-profit world and she hopes to use her sociology degree for this in the future. 

Tamara, your heart and influence at With Love will never be forgotten! Your laugh and zest for life brought so much joy to staff, volunteers, and foster families.

It’s inspiring that four women from different backgrounds, experiences and ages can come together for a few months and accomplish so much. It’s their love for the community they are serving that binds them together and enables them to accomplish what they did.

They would all say that the love they saw first hand from the foster families and volunteers was inspiring and energizing. It’s an atmosphere and environment they hope to continue to support and be a part of in the future.

Those long summer days may be gone for now, but the the door is always open to anyone who desires to experience first hand this type of community and a love that is truly life changing.

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A New Home: A New Chapter

About once a month or so I’ll have a vivid dream about a house.

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It is usually a house I’m familiar with; although in the dream I always discover a secret room tucked away in the back.

Upon opening the door, this new room is magnificent and it adds a lot to the home.

I can picture the room in my mind right now as I write.

It’s carpeted and furnished.

Stairs lead me down to it; I look upon it from an elevated view. 

Upon this realization of a new room, I am always excited and grateful.

I also have a sense that I knew all along this room belonged, yet somehow it was tucked away and missed until this very moment.

It feels more like home than any other room in my house. 

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July 24, 2019 was the Open House for With Love’s new space. 

In my mind, it is more than a space; it is home. 


When I walked into With Love that beautiful July evening, that same sense of awe overcame me; it was that same feeling I experienced in my dreams.

 It was a familiar feeling. 

This is how it was always supposed to be.

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This space exuded warmth, dignity and comfort.


I felt invited. 

I felt honored. 

I felt right at home. 

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It embodies all the values of With Love. 

Beauty.

Order.

Honor.

It is a place for gathering and supporting; a place for foster families and children and volunteers.

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There are wooden floors, paneled walls, and clean, organized shelves. 

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There are rooms for every purpose: an office, a meeting room and even a space for small children to play while parents volunteer, making this experience accessible for all. 

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My own little boys ran behind the tall shelves of toys. When I went to find them, I could hear them talking about their allowance money, strategizing how they were going to have enough money to buy some of these enticing  toys all around them. 

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When I explained that they weren’t for sale and that we were not in a toy store, they looked at me a bit perplexed. “But these toys are all brand new!” 

They were absolutely correct in their observations; those toys were brand new, not second hand toss aways. The term Donations usually bring to mind piles of broken, worn or faded items. 

These toys were ones that my children would unwrap at a birthday party.



Near the area of toys were several shelves of neatly folded colorful blankets. 

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They were soft and bright. 

There was a pattern and a theme for every child.

 I learned that there is a woman who comes faithfully every month and donates about 50 blankets she hand makes herself. 


What a beautiful testimony of love. This is what it’s all about though: community. With Love has always drawn so much community support; people want to contribute and be a part of the threads of change. 

People come with different hobbies, talents, interests and connections; they come to donate and supply. 

There is a place for everyone.

It’s a beautiful tapestry. 

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Walking in the doors I immediately felt this passion when I was greeted by the three summer interns. I could tell they loved what they do and their energy was contagious. They shared the excitement of this transition, inviting me in as if it were their personal new home. 

Welcome Home With Love! This couldn’t be more perfect.

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Perplexed by my reoccurring dream about my new room in my house,  I decided to do some research, to uncover whether there was any deeper meaning attached to it.

Upon investigation, I learned that a house in a dream usually represents The Self.

A discovery of a new room represents A New Horizon.

However, a discovery of a familiar room symbolizes an unveiling of something that was always meant to be.

Perhaps my dreams are for my personal growth and future; however, my feelings this night were similar and I couldn’t help but imagine that this new space was the beginning of a new chapter for With Love; this was a new space that was going to grow along with everything already ahead on the horizon.

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Some pictures of the Grand Opening

By Tammy Biles

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Here at Home

It felt like spiders sliding down my legs, one after another after another. If I didn’t know the feeling by now, I would have panicked; but after a few days in this Thailand heat, I recognized the sensation as beads of sweat making their way down my legs.

 I don’t sweat easily; there aren’t too many places in the world in which my body reacts like this by just standing upright.  But here I was, my water bottle slung over my shoulder, my hair pulled back and secured by a bandana, and before me lay a new world, one that I’ve seen only in covers of National Geographic.

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A filthy pig grunted as she trotted across the dirt road; her four little piglets followed in a perfect line at her heels. Chickens pecked at the dust, like they were searching for something they lost.

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 Children laughed, watching us, finding joy in these visitors to their quiet hillside tribe. 

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They wore oversized shirts and tattered shorts; their bodies were coated with a thin layer of red dust. 

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It was just another day in their hillside village,  nestled in the dense mountains of northern Thailand.




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I didn’t know what to think of their thatched houses, held up by bamboo stilts, a protection against the monsoon rains that would be coming in the next few weeks.

 I pictured the people and children navigating their streets, shoeless and trudging about in the knee high mud that would result from the deluge.  

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I watched again as three boys skipped and jumping, chasing their chickens and laughing at us foreigners in their midst.  Obviously unschooled and left to their own devices, I found myself wondering, “What would become of these children?” 

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It was about 8 years ago when I learned the fate of many of these children in the hillside tribes in Thailand.  The poverty is so severe that many children are sold by family members out of sheer desperation, hoping that their decision will allow their child to eat and somehow fall upon a more promising future. 

It was the reason I came to Thailand, to see for myself the faces of this most vulnerable population. They are at the mercy of whoever is in charge, whoever has the power and position. 

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I write about this because I just recently returned from this place, working with an organization that tries to prevent the sale of children from impoverished areas by proactively offering an alternative path of education and provision.  I left not feeling despair, but hopeful. In seeing and experiencing first hand the work that was taking place to help combat this problem, I felt that there was at least someone advocating for these precious children without a voice.  

My thoughts quickly turned to my home of Tualatin, Oregon. I began to consider the vulnerable population here at home. Where were the ones at the mercy of whoever held the power and position?

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It was clear to me that children in foster care, children who are taken from their families, powerless, without a voice and often times without a warning, are among the most vulnerable people in our community.  Although foster care is in place to protect children, there are inevitably a lot of ways we, as a community, can come alongside and help make this a smoother, more nurturing experience. With Love immediately came to my mind as an example of an organization on the frontlines doing just this! 

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A few days after my return to the States, I tuned in to a news segment on Straight Talk Oregon highlighting the “Foster Care Crisis in Portland.” 

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My conclusions were confirmed; last year 11,445 Oregon Children spent at least one day in foster care; 7,546 children are there full time.

Upon investigation, Oregon foster care was deemed to be in a crisis condition. Findings showed that DHS offices were run down and uninviting; recruiting and maintaining reputable foster care families was a struggle.  

However,  the news segment featured two Oregon non profits who are on the frontlines helping change these conditions. Jillana Goble, a foster parent and founder of Embrace Oregon, spoke  about changing the feel and experiences of DHS offices for children in foster care. EmbraceOregon.org. Their work with welcome boxes and creating nurturing, welcoming environments in DHS offices is very inspiring; it is truly an example of caring for the vulnerable in our community. 


I was also pleased and excited to see  With Love’s founder and President Allie Roth interviewed about the changes With Love is making in the community. 

Allie, a foster parent herself, explained her concern for foster families in the community.  Many people truly want to care and welcome these little ones into their homes and families but they are burdened by the financial strain and unprepared for what is needed. 

A child in foster care deserves dignity; they need security and to know they are worthy of love.

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Not only does With Love provide what is needed for children 0-6 years old, they also account for the individuality of that child. 

When a request is made for material goods, With Love also seeks to understand who that child is in order to prepare items that align directly with them; what Disney characters make them smile? Do they like horses or do they prefer trains? 


Care and thought goes into each delivery, ensuring that every family is equipped and every child is valued. 

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Allie emphasized that With Love is truly a product of the community that comes around to support these efforts. Through donating, organizing, deliveries, shopping and cleaning, 1400 volunteers stepped up last year alone to do this hard work.

Additionally,  community partners donate large amounts of necessary materials too. 

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An average delivery to a foster family is $1300.00. Furthermore, every three months foster families are eligible for another delivery to update wardrobe or supplement developmental needs. 

Deliveries can be dropped off within a 30 minute radius; however, if a foster family is beyond the delivery zone, they can arrange to have their needed materials collected and ready for them to pick up themselves. 

Last year, With Love was able to donate a million dollars worth of products. 



Watching this news segment made me feel extremely thankful. I of course already knew about all With Love was doing in the community to help the foster care system. But seeing their mission and impact broadcasted in such a way made me hopeful. 

 Naively, I looked at the vulnerable population in a third world country and thought that the need for providing dignity and hope to such a community was so far away. 

However, there is a need right outside my door. 

Community involvement has never been more important to make a growing mission like With Love continue to do the good work here. 

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I am so grateful for the people who donate time, materials and love in order to create a better world. 

Perhaps extra summer time with your family has you wondering what you can do together to impact the community for the better. Check out numerous opportunities at With Love. 

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Loving Well

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She was moving on.

They loved her.

They will always love her.

Foster care is about loving well, and then letting go.

Because a foster parent knows that each moment counts…

…And each child is worth the risk of having a piece of your heart leave with them.

They searched for her things,

the clothes that matched her doll set,

the pieces to her puzzle,

the pink socks with the little satin bow.

Her life was being moved again.

She was only 18 months old, yet this would be her 4th home.

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For the past six months she shared meals and toys.

She called Her “mama.” 

She had siblings,

and a grandma

and an uncle.


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She was loved well.

She was family.

And the truth is, she will still be loved.

She will always be family.

But, the life of a child in foster care is uncertain.

Movements happen suddenly.

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We gathered around her, this final night;

all of us a part of her life in a small way.

I watched as my dear friend brought her into her family as her daughter.

I marveled at the sacrifices and the dedication she made every day.

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This evening some close friends gathered as we often do; but tonight it was for one very specific purpose: to say good-bye.

We wanted to send her off, adorned in prayers and blessings.

We wanted to honor her family for loving well.

This night, as we gathered around her, she sat happily in her high chair, unaware of the ritual that was taking place.

We prayed for her future, her next home.

We prayed for her protection, for her health.

We prayed that she would know love every day of her life.

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We sent her off with the energy of love and hope surrounding her.

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May 11, 2019 was the 3rd annual With Love Benefit dinner. I attended for my third year in a row and proudly sat next to my friends who gave this little girl a home and a hope for the past six months.

As the theme so beautifully described, this was truly an evening to elevate foster care.

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One again, the Portland Golf Club provided stunning ambience for a truly incredible event.

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Guests were greeted at the door; they were then ushered to one of three lines where they were given a real life story about a child in foster care. The stories were eye opening to the needs and situations within the foster care system.

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This highlighted the important role With Love plays in the life of the foster family and foster child. They are on the front lines with the foster families, providing for every material need.

There was so much hope in that room. Guests heard stories from foster families, and it was a true testament to the work that is being done in this community.

The tables were decorated by the silhouettes of children in foster care. They were chosen because that night they had their foster parent in that room.

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Foster parents were truly celebrated.

The successes of last year were highlight and applauded.

The goals and dreams of this year were presented.

It is a new season of growth, and it is obvious With Love has the power of the community behind them.

I left feeling positive and hopeful.

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Every child deserves love.

With Love, all things are possible.












Happy Birthday, With Love!

This month we celebrate!

We celebrate by looking back;

we remember the dream, and we reminisce the humble beginnings of With Love.

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We celebrate by recognizing all that With Love has become today, six years later.

We recognize the volunteers who work, the visionaries who make things happen, the donors who generously give and all the people who believe and care enough to bring honor and LOVE to this foster care community.

We applaud!

We cheer!

Can we dance and pop a bottle of champagne too?!!



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We are filled to the brim with awe and gratitude.

We celebrate by dreaming; we strategize, believing that this is only the beginning.

The impact could be even greater; the love could reach farther; and more families and children could be impacted.

The dreams for With Love have always reached farther and sooner than even what we were ready for.

But this is what love is; it is unstoppable and it grows unapologetically.

It has a way of filling in the hollow gaps and then seeping over, flowing freely and changing everything.


We are celebrating this.

The abundance of love.

We are celebrating the extraordinary power of people together, working with vision, fueled by desire to make something happen.

Something better.

Something that has changed the fabric of our community.

People

helping people

who help people.

May is National Foster Care Awareness Month.

How appropriate that May is also With Love’s birthday.




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We celebrate Six Years this month.

Six Years.

And I believe we are just getting started.


President Ronald Reagan first declared a national recognition of foster care in May in 1988. Since then, this month has been designated as a time to recognize, celebrate and support foster care families, children and initiatives. 

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I marvel at all that has happened over the past 6 years. 

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It was only six years ago that With Love was contained in the home of Allie Roth, consuming her rooms and taking over her furniture and hallways.

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With Love filled a gap in our community.

There were so many donations and so many foster care families and children who benefited from them.



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For Allie, the name With Love came naturally.

Without love, this whole thing wouldn’t be possible.

But With Love it was unrestrainable.

People donated;

volunteers sorted, cleaned and organized;

foster parents received;

children were loved.

And the community flourished.

Soon enough, it was necessary to purchase one unit in a warehouse to accommodate for all the donated material goods. 

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Word spread.

Love spread.

It’s contagious. People want to grab a hold of it. They want to be a part of it. 

Volunteers came.

Soon some employees needed to be hired.

Media got hold of it.

 

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There were so many newspaper stories. Then television.

Awards. 

Recognition. 

Benefit dinners.

A van.

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And soon another unit was purchased.

So now we are filling two whole warehouses; and even still there is a slight swell at the seams.

The future is before us.

It is bright and bold and abundant.


SO Happy Birthday With Love.

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Here’s to Six Years.


It’s been a joy to watch you grow.


You’ve been a powerful force in our community and I know that the years will only bring more goodness and strength to our community.


And we know that With Love could not flourish as it has without the heartbeat behind it all: Volunteers. Donors. Believers

You have filled those warehouse walls with a pulse that has profoundly impacted this community. 

Thank you.

From the whole of our hearts, we walk confidently into the next years, because we are just getting started.









































Aiming Higher

My dad is an expert paper air plane maker. It’s a hidden talent, one of those things that comes out around the grandkids now. He crafts each plane with such precision; measuring and folding, he shapes each one just right so it glides effortlessly. It’s something special he learned in his childhood that he can now share with his grandchildren.

One time when he was a child, he was on vacation with his parents standing on a balcony overlooking the pacific ocean. He had crafted a beautiful plane and released it out towards the water and the horizon of the setting sun. He stood in anticipation at where his plane might go. To his surprise, it seemed to catch just the right gust of ocean breeze under its wing and it soared out over the ocean, farther and farther.

He remembers watching it until he couldn’t see it anymore. It just kept going.

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It was a magical moment for my Dad. As a young boy he felt the satisfaction of his mastered skill and hard work; he recognized the optimal atmospheric conditions of the right wind current; he understood that his perfect release of speed and projection allowed the plane to just keep going, elevating to new heights and soaring out into the gilded horizon.

He still smiles when he thinks about it.

He still wonders where it landed.

My son Caleb is especially fascinated by Grandpa’s skill. Last summer when we went to visit Grandma and Grandpa in Chicago, my Dad and my sons spent many hours perfecting the paper airplane together.

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When we got home, I found Caleb alone in his bedroom one day, frantically folding computer paper, a pile of ripped, rolled up, tossed out paper beside him, clearly evidence of previous failed attempts and growing frustration.

His focused hand movements had a slight agitation to them. Grandpa seemed to be able to whip out defectless planes in minutes. Caleb was struggling to get it right.

I sat down next to my son and said, “Caleb, I like how hard you are working at making these planes.”

He didn’t even look up at me as his hands continued to manipulate the square paper.

“Caleb, you know Grandpa has been making paper airplanes his whole life. You have to practice to do it like him.”

Suddenly, he smashed the airplane he was making and threw it across the room.

“I just want it to fly like Grandpa’s!”

A few months later when we saw Grandpa again, Caleb showed him his airplane making skills he’d been working on.

Grandpa sat next to him. With patience, love and instruction he guided his hands and navigated his folds; he showed him how to wet the very tip so he could form it to a perfect point.

“The very front is perhaps the most important,” he explained as he closed one eye and observed it head on to see if each side was symmetical.

“If it can cut through the air, it can go farther.”

Caleb watched in fascination.

By the end of that trip, Caleb and my Dad stood at the top of their balcony in their home. With grace and confidence, he tossed the plane into the air. They both stood, side by side, and watch it soar, higher and higher, farther and farther.


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Caleb grinned with satisfaction. He knew that Grandpa’s guidance and encouragement enabled him to build his best plane yet.

And he would only get better with each visit as Grandpa would continue to instruct him.

At home, the paper wads in his bedroom diminished, and he began to create airplanes.

For the past few months, With Love has been crafting their 3rd annual benefit dinner at the Portland Golf club on May 11.

The invitation this year shows a child tossing a paper airplane into the air. When I first saw this, I thought of the innocent and carefree days of a child. The paper airplane represents the theme this year, Elevate.

I thought of my own son Caleb, and his desire to craft the perfect plane; I thought of all the children in foster care and wondered and dreamed if they too were able to have carefree days and dreams of their own.

What if every child could aim at a beautiful horizon?

With Love’s mission is to elevate the experience of children and families involved in the foster care community. In my mind, the word “elevate” creates an image of movement and momententum; it’s a gradual accension with a full, grand view.

Elevation happens under the right gale of encouragement, support and love; to soar higher is to elevate the calling of ordinary foster parents to one that is extradonary.

Left alone, foster parents can grow weary; there are days when their good intentioned hearts begin to drift downward.

What if we could elevate the work of a foster parent to one that is recognized as heroic?

What if the lives of children in foster care could soar, could find their perfect current that would allow them to glide into the unknown horizon, confident in their worth?


What if we could be that person, the person who sits beside, encouraging and supporting?

Like Caleb and Grandpa, everyone needs someone in their life to stand by them when they are taking on hard things.

This year’s benefit dinner promises an evening of good food and drink while honoring the stories and lives of those in the foster care community. I am excited to be in the audience, applauding and endorsing the good work of everyone involved.

Together, we can elevate the foster care experience so that families and children not only successfully take off, but can rise and soar to new heights and horizons they only dreamed about.

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Hearts in Training

Hasn’t it been said that “money is the root of all evil?”

I see it differently.

“Money is the root of change.”

With enlightened vision,

wise stewardship

and extraordinary love,

Money has Remarkable Power:

Beautiful,

transformative,

revolutionary influence.

Money needs a heartbeat behind it.

My husband and I have long ago identified the need to coach our kids and train their hearts when is comes to dealing with money.

Starting at a young age, when my boys were four and my daughter six, we started to guide, discuss and deal with this lifelong issue of money management.

We partake in an intentional weekly “pay day” ritual: the Sunday Salute.

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Payday: It’s Yours. All of it. You earned it. It’s your right.

But what shall become of it?

What shall become of you?

Each Sunday night, after showers and baths and pajamas and teeth brushing,  my husband takes our kids, one by one to our bedroom. It’s there when he discusses with them the work they did during the week in our home and then pays them for it. 

Now, when I say work, I mean, make their bed (or attempt to!), pick up lego pieces (to prevent painful orthopedic arch injuries!!)  and makes a general assessment about attitude and willingness to be a helpful team member of the Patton household.

The compensation is about 25 cents a day. Once the amount of work preformed has been determined, my husband divides out the coins. 

 He then takes three envelopes, each labeled with their name and a fund designation: Save, Spend and Give. 

He guides each child as to how to divide up their funds among the three envelopes and explains the importance of doing this.

It’s part of our grand plan my husband and I have for our family, as we try to raise our little humans.

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The way my husband and I see it is “Money is a part of life, a necessary part of life.” And, the more we can teach our kids how to handle it, the better their lives -and hearts! are for it.


We never force our kids to give to a certain cause; we simply suggest or inform them of opportunities.

Often times my husband and I are delighted to see them truly desire to share their money. 

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It’s interesting to see the DNA of each of our children though; some want to just dump everything into their give envelope; others grieve the fact that spend is not more full. 


However, in all honesty, my husband are also training ourselves, reestablishing our intentions, striving to become generous people, reminding ourselves that there is power in what we earn.

So, we chisel away at our hearts, at our desires, at our motives.

When we DO what we want to become, we become what we DO. 


One time, the kids had all saved up enough money in their spend envelope and they wanted to go to the mall. After a morning of shopping, the kids were excited by their new toys they had bought with their own money.

However, by the end of the day, the toys were scattered about the home.

After a few days, they were completely forgotten. 

When Sunday rolled around and they realized they had no funds in their “spend envelope” all of our kids expressed remorse at spending their money on the toys and mourned the fact their envelopes were empty. 

A small chip. 

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My triplet sons just turned five years old. Their older sister, who is seven, was just as excited to celebrate their birthday as they were. She approached me a week before their celebration  and wanted to buy them each a toy (at the dollar store) with her own money. 

We went to the dollar tree and she ended up walking out with $13.00 worth of gifts for her brothers. She was happy about spending the money, ecstatic to see the look on their faces when they opened their gifts from her. 

What I noticed is that her thrill never faded.  Unlike the events at the mall the previous week, she remained giddy about spending her money and never once regretted purchasing the toys.

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It’s so counter cultural to think that giving brings greater joy. In a society of selfies and social media updates, you’d think the whole world is flourishing immersed in their deep self promotion.

That is just not the case.

What it really comes down to is Wise Stewardship, the ability to properly manage money.

Fiscal responsibility.

How we allocate and organize what we earn establishes how we exist.

Do we flourish?

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When I think of something flourishing, I think of With Love. Starting from such humble beginnings, I was always amazed by the growth and seemingly upward projection. The community has rallied around this mission.

People donate. 

The Benefit Dinner is has a few seats left after less then a month after tickets went on sale.

5683 volunteer hours were recorded last year.

 A conservative estimate shows that 1100 kids were cared for, perhaps 400 more counting the stocking stuffer drive. 

Managing a non profit with limited and uncertain funding is truly an endeavor of frugality and faith.

But when it’s done right, it shows in its growth and impact. 

And I think people rally because they believe in how things are being run.

Wise Stewardship.

When a request comes though from a new foster family, the average material delivery is $1300.  

There were 575 delivers made last year.. 

And, Gas for the van.. 

And, Maintaince.

 And Bags…. 

Employees… 

Lights.

  Heat. 

Storage. 

There is a lot that goes into all this. 

Wise stewardship.

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With Love volunteers provide $113,555 worth of service hours to help process and deliver over $745,000 of product to foster families each year. 


Why are there so many volunteers who give of their recources and time so freely?




There are many reasons, but if I had to narrow it down, I think many of them would have to do with the stuff they bought at the mall last week. 


Our homes are microcosms of what’s going on in the world, in the hearts of people. 

If we want to change the world, it begins with us.

Yes, money can be the root of all evil, but it doesn’t have to be.

When managed properly, money can be the root to change.

Good change. Transformative change.

Change that impacts a community, a family, and

a heartbeat.

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True Love

It was a long winter break with the kids, and I was relieved to finally be sitting down having an adult brunch with one of my good friends; I had just dropped my kids off at school for the first time in three weeks, and I was elated and ready to have a meal without interruption. 

Holiday travel and activities had kept us both extremely busy and we hadn’t talked in several weeks. 

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My friend was her usual smiling self as we greeted each other and sat down. We ordered coffee and let ourselves bask in the unhurried moment. 



 “So. How are you?! How was your break?!” I asked enthusiastically. 

I paused.

 “I mean, how was your time?”

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“Break” is a word I have stopped using to describe the time Moms of young children have during the Christmas holiday. The 2+ weeks without school and festivity preparations is more exhausting and more work than a normal week day. However, the memories can be sweet and her children are getting older, so I was anticipating a recap of Christmas highlights. 





She sighed, but smiled, and began to describe the time with her family away in a cabin during Christmas day. Her time away was revitalizing and special to her. Having three kids, she cherished the quiet moments of snow and warm fireplaces. 

“But then we came back on Dec. 26, and life got crazy.” She sat up straighter, got more serious, and when I looked into her eyes, I could see evidence that life had been somewhat intense. 





She explained arriving home the day after Christmas and just when she began unloading the car, a five week old girl arrived at their house.

Of course they had gotten the request to care for this little girl a few days prior, cutting their trip a little short in order to accommodate. Nonetheless, life with a newborn suddenly made things different. 

 

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For the past year, my friend has opened her door to foster children for  respite and short term care; she has loved 14 different babies and small children. 



During the past year, I’ve heard stories from the front line as she and her family welcomed these children into their home; saying “yes” is never convenient or easy. However, her family has grown and learned lessons that significantly change the fabric of who they are as humans.


She explained to me that she received an urgent phone call. A five week baby girl desperately needed a place to stay for 10 days.

This baby, described by the previous caregivers as docile and sleepy, seemed to have woken up the first night she arrived in my friend’s home. For the next 10 days, my dear friend tended to a very colicky baby, (mostly between the hours of 6-2 am each night). Not sleeping much most nights and then spending the next day caring for her own three kids and this baby, my friend says that it was a challenge. 

Yet she admitted this with a smile. 

Despite her frustration and exhaustion, she cared  lovingly for this child as if it was her own, changing endless diapers, pacing the house until 2 am so the rest of her family could finally get to sleep too; she admitted to feeling a bit guilty for not giving her own children the active, adventurous Christmas vacation they were hoping for. However, watching her children come around and love this baby too made it a family affair.

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 “How do you do this?” I asked in disbelief. “Why do you do this? How can you keep loving like this?”

I honestly didn’t understand. Having four kids of my own, I feel depleted and exhausted most of the time. Taking in babies and children of strangers seems completely overwhelming and nonsensical to me. Yet, I have quite a few good friends who do just this. I watch them from afar and marvel at their unconditional, unwavering, dedicated love. 

What I’m learning though is that their love for these kids is an authentic, decisive love. It is not the Hallmark love displayed at Valentines Day. 







What I’m realizing from talking to my friends about their experiences is that this type of love really has nothing to do with feelings. 

It has nothing to do with hopeful expectations or requirements that somehow it will be reciprocated or rewarded. 

It has everything to do with will.

 With vision. 

With a decision to show love no matter what. 





According to my friend, she does foster care because she feels like she can. True and simple, my friend has decided she can show love to strangers.

She opened my eyes to the realization that when she takes in a child, not only is she showing love to the child, but she is also showing love to the birth mother, to the baby’s anxious family. 

“I imagine if I were in this situation, unable to care for my newborn, them being taken away from me. I can not even fathom not knowing where they would be or who they’d be with,” my friend started to explain. 

“I take care of each child in honor of the mother. I take care of the child how I would want someone to take care of my child if I were in this situation.” 




My friend mentioned that her preteen daughter has begun to babysit and so, she was allowed an iPhone for Christmas. My friend is suddenly trying to navigate the world of technology, apps, and social media through the lens of  her daughter. “Everyone is a star in their own show and everyone wants everyone else to watch them and marvel at how special they are! It is such a challenge to raise kids in this world who aren’t completely selfish!” 

I believe it’s true; technology has created a generation who values fame and self promotion above everything else. 

My friend has always been determined  to raise a family who reaches out  to the community and others. 

“Being a family who takes in foster children  is one way I can combat this self centered, self focused culture. My kids are recognizing value in giving of themselves. But we are sacrificing for sure. When I get a phone call that a baby is coming, our whole organized little schedule gets flipped upside down. Suddenly our world is not about us and our little family and our little activities. Suddenly our family is all about this little person we are going to care for.” 


By the time our breakfast was over, my mind was swirling. My view of love was different.  I recognized that love was more than a passing thought or feeling. 

My friend says that during the past ten really challenging days caring for the colicky foster baby, there was one moment that made it all worth it. 

After a long afternoon of rocking and trying to sooth the baby, her eleven year old daughter came home, recognized her mother’s fatigue, and volunteered to take the restless baby. 

A few moments later, she walked into a room and found her daughter with the baby in the rocking chair, the once fussy baby now fast asleep on her chest. 

In that moment, she knew why she does this. 

Love can be taught. 



I admit that I am not choosing this for myself; for my family. But I am recognizing those who do choose this and my love is for them. 



With Love is built on this vision, this choice to love.




As we enter February and think about Valentines Day, I am challenging my family to see love differently. 

How can I teach my kids what it means to choose love? To decide to pursue it and hold it up against everything else?

Partnering with With Love is choosing this type of love.

It’s a choice to act.

It is a choice to make a difference. 

Serving with my Daughter

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On a cold, dark December afternoon, my six year old daughter, Evelyn and I walked into a church building to help assist With Love during a ‘Foster Parent Night Out’ event. The afternoon suddenly became bright as I was greeted by excited volunteers, full of joy, preparing to welcome twenty or more foster children for a night of fun. 

Always trying to find ways that my kids can view the world from a selfless lens, I thought that being here, serving alongside With Love would be an excellent opportunity.  

Three times a year, With Love partners with several local churches who provide a night of respite for foster parents. Before heading out on a date night,  parents can “shop” for items donated by With Love. For the past five years, FPNO and With Love have worked together to create an evening where both foster children and foster parents are celebrated and get a change of pace.  

My daughter was eager to help.  Growing up alongside younger triplet brothers, she always wanted to be my little helper with them, and serving others has come somewhat naturally to her. 

Secretly, I think she was hoping to be adorned with an official name badge and wear a whistle; however, handing out shopping bags was just as satisfying.

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Upon entering, we were greeted by Becky Bell, my good friend and neighbor. The Bell family and my family have a special relationship. We’ve known them for over a decade and we now live in the same neighborhood and gather weekly on Sunday afternoons for dinner.

Two other families join us each week, and our kids all play together like cousins.  I have learned a lot from Becky’s family over the past few years, as they have been foster parents for the past nine months, their foster children becoming part of our community group’s cluster of children (12 in all!)

Becky has been in charge of FPNO for several years now. She is organized and passionate; she is perfect for this role. I was excited to work along side of her this evening. 

When we arrived,  she put us to work organizing and displaying a variety of donated Christmas toys. Evelyn went to work right away setting them up, categorizing them by age and gender. She loved it. All those years of playing “store” were finally being put to use! 

Other volunteers from With Love were taking inventory of shoes, organizing clothes, and displaying stockings.

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Before long, parents and children began filling the room.  Most of the kids went happily off to the FPNO volunteers for a night of fun. Grateful and somewhat weary parents came over to our display and selected whatever they wanted from shoes, clothes, toys, diapers and handcrafted pillow cases made especially for With Love by Nike. 

They were thrilled. My daughter took it all in, asking questions occasionally such as, “Hey Mom, who bought all these toys? Are they free?”  

This past year my husband and I have been focusing on earning allowance in our home and being responsible with money. She now understands the value of a dollar. 

“Yes, Evelyn,” I explained, “people buy these toys with their own money and then give them to With Love so foster parents can give Christmas gifts to their children.”

“Wow,” was her response. “That’s really nice of them.”

Evelyn was eager to help and it was obvious that she didn’t come to sit around.  She was assigned the job of handing out shopping bags to the foster parents so that they could carry their toys and clothes. 

I could tell that she was taking this all in. She watched as one of the FPNO volunteers lovingly held a crying toddler and tried to comfort him by walking around the room and talking to him gently. 

She observed the foster parents who expressed such gratitude at all that was provided. She listened to them talk about their lives and their kids. 

She was in the midst of selflessness. The room was filled with people serving someone else with joy and love. 

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The life of a typical American child is naturally just the opposite. Weekends filled with birthday parties, soccer games and children’s TV shows, society very much revolves around them. It takes intentional parenting to prevent raising a child who becomes totally entitled and self focused. Introducing them to a world outside their own at a young age is especially impressionable.  I love that I was able to serve with my daughter. I love that she was able to see people love other people and to be a part of it. 

Later that weekend we were gathered with our community group. Becky was there, along with a new foster baby placement. All twelve of the kids were seated around the table,  ready to eat dinner together. Evelyn volunteered to give the blessing over the meal. We all paused as she began to pray:

“Thank you for this food. Thank you for our friends. And thank you for our new friend here with us.”

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Her prayer was unprovoked. It was from the heart. I could tell that she truly saw and acknowledged this new foster child. She was sincerely grateful there was now going to be a new member of our community. 

However, my four year old son was a bit confused, “When did you have the baby?” He asked Becky.

“The baby”  is 16 months old. I loved being able to explain to my son the beauty of what was actually going on, and what it means to embrace a child that doesn’t come directly from your own DNA. 

So, as we enter the New Year, perhaps serving is part of what you want to do more of this year. Maybe it’s serving with your family or with your kids? Maybe you just want to introduce your family to a world outside your own. Or expand your impact, equip yourself to see the surrounding community with a little more depth.

There are a variety of ways to do just this, from “behind the scenes work” to interacting with actual foster parents once a month at FPNO. This is a place where all people and ages can serve together.

Make this year a SelfLess one.

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Twas the Night Before Christmas

Twas the night before Christmas, about a quarter past nine, my four children asleep while we indulged in some wine. 

My husband and I were having such fun, wrapping our gifts, we were just about done. 

When suddenly we paused and sat back and observed, a collective gasp as we realized the mistake that occurred! 

 Really had we forgotten one of our boys? How could this happen, we overlooked all his toys?!

Quick as a flash my husband jumped in his car, off to Target which wasn’t too far. 

Gaining support from other last minute shoppers in line, he got what we needed, in the nick of time. 

Guilty we felt, but relieved just the same, 

next year we vowed we’d be more on top of our game. 

For the sake of informing I’m going to step out of rhyme,

hoping I secured your attention for a little more time. 

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Looking back on that night now, my husband and I can joke about the “Christmas we forgot one of our kids.” However, sitting there Christmas Eve before everything was resolved made me sick to my stomach; I couldn’t stand the thought of one of my children waking up up Christmas morning without gifts under the tree, feeling perhaps unloved and forgotten.

However, this feeling has enabled me to recognize the burden that some foster families might experience during this season; last minute placements, financial strain and busy schedules can make the holiday season especially hectic. Foster care doesn’t get Christmas break!

Luckily, my husband and I had the resources and opportunity to find an open store last minute and purchase the gifts that could help us avoid this Christmas catastrophe. Unfortunately though, not all children and families have the same good fortune.

In a sense, With Love is the shopper in line at Target for foster families. With Love takes the extra financial and logistical burden.

Joy and honor are unwavering values at With Love; new circumstances, new situations and uncertain separation can cause great anxiety. A present under the tree, selected with intention and love can help alleviate worry and demonstrate worth.

This holiday season With Love will be serving 600 foster children. To aide in this extraordinary endeavor, Nike has made 500 pillow cases to hold gifts and treasures. 100 stockings have been made for babies and infants.

To make the experience even more genuine, parents can request specific items, toys and themes for their child in foster care.

Imagine the joy on Christmas for both parent and child when they receive a pillow case filled with toys and gifts intentionally and specifically bought with that child in mind!

Parents can collect the gifts at six different Foster Parent Night Out events.  Additionally, With Love will also be working with two DHS offices, a group called The Family Room as well as making special deliveries in order to ensure that every family is able to have special Christmas gifts under the tree. 


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One of the greatest nights for me as a child was being tucked in bed Christmas Eve. I would lay there in the dark, dreaming about what I would find under the tree come Christmas morning. I still remember that feeling of anticipation and excitement. The only thing that has eclipsed that feeling is the joy I feel as I see my excited children’s faces as they try and fall asleep as fast they can so that Christmas can come faster! Every child (and parent) deserves to feel this anticipation and excitement and With Love is making that a reality for foster families this holiday season.

The Christmas we “forgot" was solved with some quick thinking and luck. But, how can WE  as a community, work together to ensure that no child is forgotten on Christmas? It’s an easy 2-steps!

  1. Buy a gift or much needed item. Do this individually, or as a family, or community group or a book club or a sports team……..get creative in how YOU can honor a family and child this season. Ideas and needs can be found here.

  2. Drop off your gifts at a convenient drop off site: With Love Warehouse, RiverWest Church, Bridgeport Village mall Concierge Desk. 

Here’s an additional incentive: The beautiful children boutique in the mall, Le’D Bug Boutique is offering %20 off to anyone who purchases clothing for With Love! They will also send it free!


Additionally, any remaining gifts not used this holiday will be used for birthdays during the year! Your time, energy and resources are never wasted in this cause. 

I am a mom who really anticipates the tradition and magic of the season, probably sometimes to a fault as I can dream big and then wear myself out trying to surprise and delight my family. This season, I am really looking forward to Christmas shopping with my kids for a foster child. I’m looking forward to perusing the aisles in the store, discussing which gifts would make a child happy and having conversations about family and what it means to be a community and extend our love to other families and children.

I’m looking forward to hearing from my children why it’s important to make sure no child is forgotten on Christmas morning and what is might feel like to be away from the familiar, and how we can help make that child feel special.

I’m looking forward to taking a break from our own lists and “to-dos” and focusing on what the season is really about. 

How many other people are willing to join me on this community effort in supporting our foster families and honoring our foster children? 

Let’s make Christmas magical together! 















Giving Tuesday

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By Theresa Patton

It was one of those afternoons that made you feel like everything in the world at that moment was right. A blanket of warm afternoon sunshine rested on the backyard, reflecting the flecks of gold in the leaves as they tumbled steadily to the ground below. However, at the back of the yard stood my four year old son, shaking his fist at the heavens, pleading with the trees above him to stop dropping fresh leaves. After an afternoon of raking and despite all efforts, red and gold leaves continued to float gracefully down and land on the  grass below.

He paused for a moment, contemplating the futility of work I suppose, but decided that perhaps the rewards for his labor would be worth it in the end.

I believe he realized that with a little more effort, more leaves resulted in a larger pile; which, of course, there is only one thing a child aspires to do with a pile of freshly raked leaves. ;)

Fall is a season of transition. It’s the gradual, steady change to the cooler weather, the holidays on the horizon, and a more nocturnal, cozy existence. It’s still all so magical to me, and I still anticipate the months ahead with excitement as I ready our family for Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas. 

I find that in this I must pause and transition in my heart and mind as well. A summer of fun and leisure is behind us; the memories of beach trips, long hot days at the park and BBQs with family and friends are slowly fading into treasured memories. Our days are shorter, more scheduled, more focused. 

As a mom of four little ones, I navigate this season with intention as I strive to direct the focus to things that matter more than sandy feet and drippy ice cream cones. 

Family dinners become more regular; conversations about the day circulate the table. 

The rhythms of my day are more dictated by routine and  vision, rather than fun and leisure. 

And with the start of a new season, it’s time to haul out my boxes from below. 

Yes, my husband has finally surrendered our home to my seasonal boxes. 

He understands that when I decend  into our storage area to retrieve a box, thus commences the holiday. Each labeled box contains  decorations and activities to assist in celebrating and setting the intention for the holiday ahead. 

During the month of November, I reveal our Thanksgiving Tree. 

In order to reflect on the blessing of the past year, our family adds daily a single leaf to the tree. Upon the leaf is written something we are grateful for this past year.  By the end of the month, the collective leaves have formed a full tree. It’s beautiful as we watch the daily words of gratitude add up and fill out the barren tree branches. 

At the end of the month, when our giving tree can not hold another leaf, we then discuss how we want to “release” these blessings. Where, to whom, do we want to drop a leaf?! 

It takes intentional conversations to take the focus off ourselves during this season. This is why reflecting on gratitude and generosity is a high priority. 

With #givingtuesday on the horizon, my husband and I begin to discuss organizations and nonprofits we want to support finically. Granted, there are so many amazing non profits out there all doing good things; but for my husband and I, we really partner  with the ones that align closest to our hearts and home. 

Our life is focused and consumed with raising our four young children. We understand the sacrifice, work and importance of this job. 

When we started to hear about the urgent need for foster families in Oregon, we felt something in us connect with this cause. 

We were shocked that over 8,700 children a day need a loving, safe home.  Although we feel passionate about this need, we ourselves  don’t feel called to do this job at this time. However,  we truly admire and want to support those individuals and families who open their hearts and homes for such an important job. 

Therefore, With Love is the non profit that just makes sense to support. 
They are local and involved deeply in our community, making it more loving and whole.  
They align with our values.
They support the flourishing of families and children.
We want to be a part of it. 
So we are.
This is where we want our gratitude to spill over. 
This is the place we want drop our leaf. 

Last year, With Love served 990 children. They made 330 deliveries to 470 children. They were able to purchase a van to streamline deliveries. They expanded their impact in the community and the vision is to reach even more in this upcoming year. 

It’s now when With Love gathers the majority of their resources for the upcoming year. Although much of the material goods are donated, things like car seats, underwear and some clothing sizes must be purchased. 

Financial support also covers logistical operations of the warehouse and pays the few salaried employees.

The hope is to reach $60,000; a $10,000 match is already in place. How can you and your family support families and children in your community? 

1.  Make a one time end of the year donation in honor of someone special. 

Instead of hurriedly trying to find last minute gifts for everyone on your list, why not support With Love in honor of your loved one? This gift of support is much more meaningful and it won't get lost under the couch in a few days. 

2. Contribute a family legacy donation

As a family, define who you want to be, determine your values and develop an action plan on how to live this out. If you find that you want to strengthen families and children, putting your resources into With Love is a way to put your heart into action. 

3. Commit to a monthly pledge 

Foster a heart of gratitude and love year round by making a commitment to contribute monthly to With Love. A steady guarantee of support allows With Love to more accurately plan for the future and ensures that all the needs and supplies are met. 

During this seasonal transition in your home and within the rhythms of your family life, I encourage you to pause and count your blessings. Create a plan for  giving back, in honor of all that has been given to you this past year as well as how you can continue to nourish a heart of gratitude and love for what you value. 

With Love is totally dependent on you, the community. 

Drop your leaf. Create an accumulation of resources that will truly enable families across Portland to flourish. 

As I watch my own kids tumble, turn and dance in the leaves with such joy and ease, I long for a day when all children feel this loved, this hopeful, this carefree. 

With Love would love to hear from you the ways you try to incorporate this season of giving and gratefulness with your family or within yourself. What is your plan of giving back?

Let’s learn from each other and make this #givingtuesday and season of giving the best one yet!

With Love's First Benefit Dinner

Seated in the Marylhurst University ballroom on the evening of Oct. 1 attending the first With Love Benefit dinner and auction, I couldn’t help but flashback to four years earlier; reclining on Allie Roth’s couch in her living room, sipping on coffee while my baby daughter crawled around her floor, Allie had something she needed to share with me. She had an idea, a dream, something she was certain would improve foster care in the community. 

 

She had a glimmer in her eyes as she excitedly explained to me, “It is a place where foster parents feel honored and supported. They can get everything they need, and it will be all donations.”  She described to me, in detail, her vision and plan for an organization, a place, that would support and honor foster families in the community. 

I could feel her passion for this mission; I could sense her urgency for this need. She had it in her mind and heart, and I knew somehow, this was going to be more than a passing dream. 

She even had it named: “With Love,… Because the community will come together and share in this, and individuals and families can volunteer in honor of someone. It will be a place where people can receive and be blessed, both the giver and the receiver.”

 

Now, flash forward, four years later and here I sit, among the other approximately 210 people, applauding the successes and future ambitions of With Love,. 

That dream, that vision, that plan has suddenly become a thriving reality. 

 

With Love’s first benefit dinner and auction was a perfect blend of elegance, fun, celebration and challenge. Businesses from all over the community stepped up to donate many desirable auction items; guests could purchase $10 tickets to bid on the items they wanted. From wine tours, to swimming lessons, to art and fun family fun outings, there was something for everyone. The raffle created a sense of anticipation and excitement. 

 

In addition to auction items, there were also collection tables around the room for additional donations to foster children. Guests mingled and noshed on appetizers, sipped wine and beer and surveying the items. The room was buzzing with excited discussion! There was certainly an energy in the air. 

 

 The auction tables closed, and this energy was directed to the center of the room where beautifully decorated tables were set, waiting for guests to begin dinner. 

Colorful paper airplanes adorned the center of each table, creating a playful atmosphere; later in the evening, their craftsmanship was actually tested and tried as they were launched at other tables. These decorations were a great reminder and representation of the innocence of these foster children being served. 

Scott Roth, Allie’s husband, then took the stage to introduce his wife, the visionary, founder and president of With Love..  Allie took to the stage and enthusiastically detailed the history and story of With Love, the positive impact its made on the community and her goals and dreams for the future. 

 

As she spoke, there was that undeniable spark in her eye again. The passion and drive has not wavered one bit in the 4 years since I sat in her living room, hearing of it for the first time. Now, with the belief that even more kids could be served, she voiced a bold goal of raising $55,000 dollars during the dinner. She recognized several community sponsors and supporters, one being First Tech Credit Union, who generously agreed to match $1,000 contributions dollar for dollar up  to $10,000. 

 

Several people took the stage to tell their stories of being a foster parent and the impact With Love, has made in lessening the financial, physical and emotional burdens.  They described the adrenaline rush of receiving the sudden phone call from DHS, notifying them of a child needing care. With emotion, they talked about how With Love was on the front lines, delivering to their door everything they needed, free of charge, allowing them to put all their energy and focus into the child rather than the material necessities. 

Foster care advocate Embrace Oregon’s Director, Brooke Gray took to the stage too, relaying her experience of working with foster care parents as well as taking on the role herself.  Embrace Oregon commended and recognized With Love’s support and credited that the Portland Community is stronger because of With Love’s partnership with DHS and foster families. 

 

To conclude the dinner, very specific needs and goals were addressed. One area of focus was older toddler boy clothing. Donations for this age are extremely low, so a fund was created just for this need, called “Let’s Hear it For the Boys.”  To the background of Deniece Williams' song, envelopes were passed, volunteers helped with credit card transactions and financial pledges and donations were collected. 

 

The night concluded with the room sharing in a truly heartfelt applause. The night was an overwhelming success. The message and mission of With Love, was wonderfully conveyed and the goals were met with affirmation; this is truly a cause worth supporting. The monetary goal was met and was exceeded; $60,220 was raised. 

The evening was a perfect embodiment of all that With Love, stands for and strives to be in the community.

We are stronger;

We are more unified; 

We can show more Love.

 

Thank you With Love, for a tremendous event!

- Theresa Patton

 

Love is the Greatest Remedy for Fear

"The other night I was tucking my 4 year old daughter into bed, when she seemed to be deep in thought. Suddenly, out of the blue she clung to me, pleading desperately, “momma, I don’t want you to die before me!”  I’m not sure where that thought came from, but it left me with a deep pit in my stomach. I realized that her greatest fear in life was being separated from her mom and dad. At age 4-at any age- a child’s parents are his/her’s world; they are protection, love and comfort. A world without this security is one of loneliness, uncertainty and fear. 

 

I left my daughter’s room that night feeling a little helpless; I could not fully calm that anxious feeling I knew she had. I felt sad that she had these thoughts and these fears of abandonment and being alone. As I thought back to this conversation later that night, I realized this is what foster children must feel like. They must have these very same fears and anxieties about being alone, unloved and suddenly vulnerable. 

This is the very reason I get behind With Love, and the work they are doing partnering with foster families. By providing the necessary materials and support, they are allowing these families to put all the focus and energy into loving and caring for these children; these children whose greatest fear just became a reality.  

 

I don’t know how I can assure my daughter that I will always be around all her growing up years. As much as I truly hope and pray I can be there for her, the only thing I can control is how I love her in this moment. Love is the greatest remedy for fear. 

We have control in how we live in each day and how we treat and honor those in our lives. 

Be intentional.

Love deeply. 

And give selflessly, With Love."

 

Written by Theresa Patton

Team of volunteers working together

It takes a village to serve 70+ kids a month. We have so many people who lovingly pour their time in and effort into washing, sorting, bagging, pulling, and delivering items. Many of these people play their part, but don't know what happens next. Here is a thoughtful note from our delivery driver. She is delivering to some special needs kids and was REALLY impressed with how our 'puller' Mary prepared the items that were sent out. 

"Mary Hope did a fantastic job pulling items for these children!!  I ran into Mary when I picked up the delivery and she told me she had spoken with the foster mom the day before.  I'm not sure if this is standard or one of Mary's special touches to talk with the foster parent before selecting items to send, but it gave Mary great insight and helped her select surprisingly thoughtful and appropriate items!  

 

For example, Mary learned the girl could not sit but needed toys.  Mary had the idea for and found a beautiful overhead activity center that the foster mom was tickled with!  Mary also wondered if the child might need extra support so sent along a breast feeding pillow that could be used to slightly elevate the child under the activity center.  The foster mom was VERY pleased with the pillow and said it will be very helpful!  The foster mom also noted the hole in the center of the pad and said this will be good for "tummy time" too, as the trach can slip down in the empty space and not have pressure applied.

 

How wonderful Mary was to open her heart and mind so wide and do such a fantastic job!  I was sure pleased to see Mary was selected as Volunteer of the Month!  She also has my vote for Volunteer of the Year!

 

The little boy was excited to open the bag of all his clothes and he excitedly called out each item, put on a shirt, commented on how nice things looked and felt, how his teacher would be happy to see he now has a winter coat, how he wanted to wear this new bathing suit next time they went swimming, etc.!  He giggled as he pulled out all the books and toys, tested many toys.

 

The foster mom appeared quite surprised and extremely pleased with all that was also sent for the girl.  She noted that her request for clothing that would not be hot was so well honored.  She commented positively on the clothes' styles, colors, quantities.  Very gauzy light weight blankets were a big hit too; she said they are expensive but that the girl uses them daily when she sleeps.  

 

How wonderful for me to meet this family, see the help and joy the With Love delivery brought them!"

- CeCe

Delivery driver and former foster parent 

With Love, is able to serve so many precious children because people in our community say 'yes' to serving. We are so thankful for people like Mary and CeCe who show up weekly to support kids in foster care.

-Allie Roth

Sweet note

We love surprising our foster families with more than they asked for. Who doesn't love it when you ask for a 'tall' drink at Starbucks and they accidentally make you a 'grande.' Thanks to all of our donors we are able to give generously to the foster families. Here is a sweet note we got today:

"Good morning;

I just met CeCe, a wonderful lady who brought what you sent to me and my kids.

I wanted to tell you how Thankful I am for all of the things that you sent.

I was expecting at the most a couple packages of socks, and underwear for A,

and maybe 2 toys for M.

I am so Thankful for you generosity, and help."

M

Foster families work so hard. They are our heroes. We love to support them the best way we can. 

- Allie

 

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Humbled

It takes a village of volunteers to accomplish what we do weekly. We are always so thankful for those people who come and give the gift of their time to help serve kids locally in foster care. Recently two leaders have been asked to work or lead a small group else where. (Yes, our head leaders are that amazing.) Yet, they not only have stayed with us, they have asked what more they can do. Yep, taking on more tasks and responsibilities. As the founder of With Love, it's these moments when I realized that With Love, has out grown me. There are other people wanting to pour more of their valuable time into serving at With Love, than get paid for a part time job?!? This is humbling. It also is a testimony to the dedication and love that these head leaders have for the task at hand. They truly understand the 'heartbeat' of With Love, and want to be a part of making a difference. 

With Love, works with the most vulnerable kids in Portland. That's not an easy task at times. There is a lot of healing many of these sweet kids need to do. Thankfully we have some dynamite leaders that are committed to making their journey just a little easier. 

I'm truly thankful to be volunteering along side all you amazing volunteers. I'm humbled and thankful. 

-Allie Roth

Speaking at the National League of Young Men's Dinner

Allie Roth was asked to speak at the National League of Young Men's Dinner. It was a wonderful event that allowed her to share about volunteering at With Love, as well as how they could get involved. It was after the dinner that something interesting happened. This is the note she wrote to the NYLM head leader:

“What a delightful group of young men you have. I loved seeing everyone dressed up and the kind gentlemen who loaded my car were great. Thank you for allowing me to be part of such a special night. As I walked through the doors to leave, a server followed me and asked for a moment. Painfully, she told me that from age 9 – 18 she was in foster care. Her aunt adopted her brothers but stuck her in the system because she was a girl. She explained how powerful it was to see a group of kids want to give kids in foster care a better story. She was very articulate about how even now that she works, is married and is in nursing school, she is feeling the after effects of society telling her she “isn’t worth it”. She was stunned to go to work today and see a big pile of quality items that a beautiful group of boys with their parents had brought to help kids in foster care. It was unheard of for her. It was also special for me to look her in the eyes and tell her that we are trying our best for those littles who don’t have a voice like she does. And to tell her that she has beat the statistics, which isn’t easy. I was able to give her a big hug and tell her how truly thankful I am that I met her. If it wasn’t for tonight, I would not have met her and she would not have known how amazing your group is. Thank you for that moment.”

JG- a foster mom's story

“I can’t begin to express my thankfulness to With Love for the unbelievable support they have shown my family. We unexpectedly became full time foster parents again when the sibling of our (adopted) son came into foster care recently. In the midst of a very full life, this transition of adding another person to our family has had a massive affect on all 6 members of our family and it has been a challenging adjustment. While working, navigating DHS, extra doctor and other appointments and being there for the emotional well-being of our foster son,  the time to go run errands never seemed sufficient (not to mention how overwhelming the thought of buckling up 5 kids in the car to run around town).  Imagine my delight when I filled out a With Love request and the needed items were dropped off at my house free of charge! It was the embodiment of “service with a smile”.  Nancy, the kind volunteer who made the delivery said she had been praying for me on the way over and it just brought me to tears. We are often reminded that God loves us and is ever-present with us in the messiness through a community of caring people. Thank you, With Love, for tangibly reminding us of God’s goodness in the midst of a challenging situation”.  

 

~ JG, foster mom